Darling, baby, honey, hun, or sugar. Whatever the phrase, if you’re in a relationship, pet names are most likely a part of your or your partner’s repertoire. Studies show pet names typically signify a strong relationship between lovers. However, not all pet names are great, and some can be downright offensive.
Let’s take a look at some of the most common (and not-so common) pet names, according to over 1,000 Europeans and Americans. We’ve compiled a definitive list of the most popular pet names for everything from typical relationship chatter to your most intimate moments in the bedroom. We even honed in on the terms of endearment that are linked to the happiest relationships and the ones that you may want to avoid at all costs. Want to know where your favorite pet name ranks? Read on to find out.
Before you start feeling sentimental from the pet names in your relationship, research has a lot to say about why we use nicknames at all and what they might have to say about a couple’s emotional connection.
It might feel weird knowing scientists link the use of pet names to the childhood love we have for our parents, but studies also suggest these nicknames (like inside jokes) are strong indications that the relationship is strong enough to have them in the first place.
Nearly 3 in 4 Europeans and 87 percent of Americans told us that they do use pet names in their relationships. More common among men than women, 85 percent of men and 76 percent of women found their own special something to call their boyfriend, girlfriend, and spouse by. As we’ll explore below, not all pet names are created equal though, and some can be particularly dreadful.
What Did You Call Me?
People admitted which pet names they disliked the most, and two similar monikers made their way to the top of the list: “papi” and “daddy.” No matter how much you love your significant other, they may not want to hear any type of reference to your father, especially when things are getting hot and heavy. Rated as the worst pet name on our list, 73 percent of men and women agreed “papi” was better left on the radio and out of the bedroom.
Other commonly distasteful pet names included “sweet cheeks,” “muffin,” “cutie pie,” “sweet pea,” and “princess.” These overly affectionate nicknames were among the most disliked terms of endearment, according to more than half of people polled. Looking for a safer bet? Stick to names like “honey,” “beautiful,” and “sweetie,” which tended to bother fewer people.
Talking to your partner in the bedroom, whether it be “dirty” or intimate, can be a fun, free turn-on for many. Often, the language in sexual scenarios can involve romantic and/or kinky pet names. More than 1 in 3 men used “baby” in bed, while nearly as many women preferred not to use pet names at all during sex.
Pet names including “baby,” “babe,” and “honey” were the most popular nicknames used in the bedroom among ladies and gents. Studies have shown men appreciate intimate conversations not just because they can lead to sex but also because these emotional connections can help make sex more meaningful.
Ranking last among the nicknames you might hear tossed around during sex, “sweet cheeks,” “papi,” or “sweet pea” were used less than 5% of the time by both Americans and Europeans.
While a whopping 72 percent of all 1,026 respondents despised the name “daddy” for a general relationship pet name, 12 percent of Americans claimed to enjoy using “daddy” in the bedroom with their partners. On the other hand, the vast majority of Europeans preferred to avoid the term in and out of the bedroom. Just 3 percent of those hailing from the EU had ever chosen to use “daddy” in the bedroom.
So even if “daddy” isn’t your thing in daily romantic life, there’s a (small) chance it’s your thing in the bedroom, whatever your nationality may be. There’s also the chance that the concept of erotic pet names in general isn’t for you. If, however, you are still interested in bringing dirty talk into your sex life, there’s fortunately a trove of phrases, words, and cues to read through and try with your partner. If you’re not entirely sure where to get started, there are many resources and suggestions available to give you a little inspiration.
Language of Love
Relationship experts typically have good things to say about the power of pet names. They’ve explained that they can signify strong emotional connections, but what exactly do these nicknames (or lack thereof) really indicate about how happy we are with our significant other?
Among those polled, couples who used pet names were more likely to be satisfied in their relationships than those who didn’t use them. American couples using pet names were 16 percent more likely to be satisfied in their relationships, while European pet names increased the likelihood of relationship satisfaction by 9 percent. In America, 90 percent or more of people using the terms “pretty,” “beautiful,” and “gorgeous” were content with their partner, while only 56 percent of those who didn’t use pet names were satisfied.
In Europe, the most agreeable pet names were slightly different. Ninety-three percent of Europeans using “schatz” to affectionately refer to their partners (a phrase mostly used in Germany meaning “my love” or “darling”) felt satisfied with their relationships, followed by “cutie” (90 percent), “hun” (90 percent), and “gorgeous” (89 percent). Unlike Americans, 62 percent of Europeans not using any pet names were still happy with their relationships.
Same Name, Different Person
Pet names are often considered gratifying among lovers because they act as a secret love language. That is, of course, unless you’ve used your partner’s current nickname with an ex as well.
Forty-four percent of men and 36 percent of women admitted to recycling pet names from one relationship to the next. These personal tags or expressions are meant to be intimate and private between couples, but that didn’t stop 2 in 5 people from converting the same labels of affection from one person to another. Perhaps to get the full range of emotional benefits from establishing pet names with your partner, it might be best to consider new names for each lover – after all, you’d probably hate to get them confused with each other. Even if your pet name deviates from our most popular list, it may be worth calling your partner by a unique name, all their own.
Calling Them Confidently
Under the right circumstances (and with the right nicknames in mind), pet names aren’t just a cute way to get your partner’s attention – they can be a sign you’ve gotten comfortable enough with each other to develop a love language. While not always appropriate in public (at least according to some), it’s not uncommon for couples to develop their own affectionate code names that might even work their way into the bedroom. But before you get carried away, make sure you aren’t using offensive terms like “daddy” or “sweet cheeks” that could put a serious damper on the mood.
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We surveyed 1,026 respondents to gauge their perceptions of pet names, or terms of endearment, in relationships. Only participants who experienced a romantic relationship for at least one month were able to participate in the survey. 49% were European, and 51% were American, with approximately 47% being male, 53% female, and less than 1% identifying outside of those two genders. Respondents were aged between 20 and 71, with a mean of 37.7 and a standard deviation of 11.5.
No statistical testing was performed and, as such, these data are purely exploratory.
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